To shoosh or not to shoosh

It happens often that children get "shooshed" in our presence. What I mean by that is that a child will be playing near or around D, notice him and his missing limbs, and will run to tell his mom or dad. His mom or dad will then proceed to "shoosh" him so that I cannot hear his question and know that he's talking about me and my son. This is very difficult for me, and for my kids. I totally get that the parent doesn't want his child to appear rude or unkind, and I know I have "shooshed" my kids numerous times in the past when in similar situations. However, now being on the other side, having a parent "shoosh" their child actually makes D's disability seem "bad" to my children; something that shouldn't be talked about or discussed. It makes the questioning child continue to be fearful of the disability or the disabled child himself. It doesn't lead to open conversation or acceptance. So I urge you...if your son or daughter is playing near a child that has a limb difference and makes a comment that might initially seem rude or like its drawing attention to the child, please, don't "shoosh" them. Say something along the lines of "that's how God made him/her," or "yes, I see, and he/she is a very special little boy/girl!" It's OK to notice and allow your children to talk to you about kids with disabilities.
Someone that has become a friend and a strength to me in raising D is Meagan. Meagan and her husband adopted a little boy years ago, who is missing one leg. They also adopted sweet Tessa a year ago, and Tessa is almost exactly like Dillon. She is missing her legs and one of her arms. I encourage you to check out Meagan's blog to read her "Guide to Talking about Differences." I resonate so much with what she says, and she gives her tips in a very honest and true way. I'm so grateful for those that are going before us, as we can learn so much from them. We're blessed to have come in contact with Meagan and her family!
Meagan's blog - We Choose Yes: Guide to Talking about Differences.

Thanks for reading! And I leave you with this little gem today. Dillon doing a headstand. He loves them. :)